Discussing the significant moments of her last decade this week is Sacha aged 36. Sacha is a hypnotherapist and lives in Manchester with her husband and 18 month old daughter. She has her own hypnotherapy practice called Bluebell Hypnotherapy.
If you could go back 10 years and meet your younger self, what advice would you give yourself?
I would tell myself to go travelling. Ten years ago I was made redundant but was quite glad as I had been feeling bored in the job for quite a while. I received a generous redundancy package, which was more than enough to go travelling, but I was a nervous about leaving my friends, giving up my flat and leaving behind the structure of a 9-5 existence to go out into the unknown.
I have travelled to some exotic places including Egypt, India and Brazil but they were all part of package holidays as I thought this was the safe and easy way to see the world. I was bored with my life and going on lots of holidays gave me something to look forward to. I was torn between going on an adventure and building a stable life for myself e.g. saving to buy a house and I chose the latter.
At the time, going travelling for a year or so seemed like a massive upheaval but looking back I realise I wouldn’t really have had to give anything up. I was single, living in a council flat with second hand furniture and had just lost my job so there wasn’t really much keeping me in the UK. I was also worried that I would go away, have an amazing time but would have to come back and start from scratch e.g. find a job, somewhere to live and settle back into a dull routine. Who knows what I would have done after travelling. I may have decided to permanently relocate to a country abroad or come back to the UK and have a complete career change.
If I could speak to my 26 year old self, I would say “Don’t put that redundancy money into an ISA, get yourself to the nearest travel agent and go. You have no ties, you’re still very young. Just go!”
What are your biggest achievements of the last 10 years?
I’ve done a few sporting challenges and raised money for charity. In 2009 I did my first 10K race and raised money for a charity called Lupus UK. I did a marathon in 2010 and have done three open water swims and a 50K walk. I never considered myself to be a particularly sporty person so it was a great personal achievement knowing that I could train my body to complete these events.
I decided not to return to my office job after having my daughter and set up my business Bluebell Hypnotherapy. I saw mothers who returned to work struggle to juggle parenting with their career and I didn’t want that for myself. It was a hard step to take as I was leaving behind a secure job but it means I get to spend much more time with my little girl. I never imagined that I would have the ability to set up my own business and it’s been very satisfying watching things come into fruition.
What are your biggest mistakes of the last 10 years?
Some of the relationship choices I made were questionable. I allowed myself to be disrespected and treated poorly and I wish I would have stepped away from negative situations sooner.
What are the most valuable lessons you have learnt in the last 10 years?
I’ve learnt that it’s OK to be me. I spent a long time being told that I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, interesting enough or successful enough. I constantly strove to be someone else and to be accepted by the wrong people. When you learn to accept yourself for who you are, you find that you don’t have the time for people who have an issue with you. You will naturally find yourself in the company of people on your wavelength.
What significant people have entered your life in the last 10 years?
My husband and my daughter. I met my husband four years ago and my daughter was born 18 months ago. I’ve always wanted to have my own family but 10 years ago I was unsure whether I would ever meet anyone. I think that was due to having low self-esteem and wondering if I was good enough to be in a loving relationship. I put up emotional barriers as I was scared of rejection but I was preventing myself from being happy. When I was 32 I realised I needed to have a more positive attitude and break down the barriers to allow love to enter my life.
What significant people have left your life in the last 10 years?
I was very close to my godmother and she died seven years ago. She had suffered from an auto immune disease called lupus for several years. She wasn’t the first person I’ve lost but I’ve realised that the older you are, the harder it is to deal with the death of a loved one. When they’ve been part of your life for a longer period they’ve had a larger impact on you. My godmother was like a second mother to me and I remember a few days after her funeral, I suddenly started crying and didn’t stop for a couple of hours. I found it hard to deal with the fact that I would never again pop into her house and have a chat with her. We could chat for hours and that is something that I still miss. What I find hardest about losing someone is moving forward with your life and knowing that they won’t be part of it. My godmother wanted to see me settled down with a nice man and always said that I would be a good mum. I feel sad that she never got to meet my husband and I know she would have loved my daughter.
If 10 years ago, you could have had a glimpse into the future, would you have been happy with how your life is now?
I would be happy about the fact that I am a wife and mother and that I have escaped the 9-5 routine. However, I would have imagined that I would have done things sooner. I imagined that I would have had more children by now and that I would have left my office job sooner than I did.
Where do you see yourself in 10 years time?
Hopefully I will have had another baby and living in a bigger house. I would like my hypnotherapy business and my blog to be successful.
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